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Life’s Hard.. Can You Take It (at least one minute at a time)?

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I would have to say, looking back on my time here on this planet that most of the time life is fine.. pretty good I would even venture to say..

But whoa.. when life gets tough.. are you up to the challenge?

There are minutes, hours even days that I would have to say no.  It would be better just to crawl in a hole and tell everyone to go away.  But that said, life keeps going and sometimes you have to flow with it.. Even if the flowing seems a lot more like raging rapids that a gentle stream.

It’s been a bit of a raging rapids over here.  And in those times I wish I had magic glasses that would show me some time down the road, but that is not life.. we only get to be in the minute, maybe even just the second.

This morning my husband took the girls to school and then came home.. to bring me coffee.

Mind you, he HATES coffee, won’t touch the stuff.  But he loves me, so he brought me coffee.

I think I’ll be OK.. at least for this minute.

What struggles are you overcoming.. one minute at a time?

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  1. ((Hugs)) I'm sorry you are having a frustrating time. Right now I'm just dealing with weight/fatigue issues. Trying to overcome them by educating myself which typically ends up in overwhelming me. I think one minute at a time is the perfect approach.
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  2. Hugs to you! You are so lucky to have a hubby who thinks of you! My one minute at a times are, My 14 month and 24 month old boys. Our recent move to a rental home in disrepair. Living paycheck to paycheck. Vehicles which are on their last leg. And the stress that comes with all of the above. I know its always darkest before the dawn. Its just tough to remember that in the midst of chaos.
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  3. What I posted on your FB, and then infertility. Infertility is really REALLY hard. This is my theme these days... http://youtu.be/1CSVqHcdhXQ We pray for blessings We pray for peace Comfort for family, protection while we sleep We pray for healing, for prosperity We pray for Your mighty hand to ease our suffering All the while, You hear each spoken need Yet love us way too much to give us lesser things 'Cause what if Your blessings come through raindrops What if Your healing comes through tears What if a thousand sleepless nights Are what it takes to know You’re near What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise We pray for wisdom Your voice to hear And we cry in anger when we cannot feel You near We doubt Your goodness, we doubt Your love As if every promise from Your Word is not enough All the while, You hear each desperate plea As long that we have faith to believe 'Cause what if Your blessings come through raindrops What if Your healing comes through tears What if a thousand sleepless nights Are what it takes to know You’re near And what if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise When friends betray us When darkness seems to win We know that pain reminds this heart That this is not, this is not our home It's not our home 'Cause what if Your blessings come through raindrops What if Your healing comes through tears And what if a thousand sleepless nights Are what it takes to know You’re near What if my greatest disappointments Or the aching of this life Is the revealing of a greater thirst this world can’t satisfy And what if trials of this life The rain, the storms, the hardest nights Are Your mercies in disguise
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  4. This hit home. Thanks. Baby number 5 is due in the middle of June and my husband has applied for a job 3 states away. We won't know until the end of May if we are moving. I will have about 2 weeks to pack once we find out, before the baby is born. That means, once again, HE will be the one picking out where we live because I will be unable to travel. The list goes on...
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  5. Sorry for every ones sorrow.I do feel others pain. I loved the poem above and am going to finish watching the video at you tube. Honestly, my list of sorrows has been so long for so long, I don't think I could list it all here! It would take a book! I have lost so much in life in so many ways but I do have some blessings to which I am truly thankful for. But it just seems like the problems keep coming and I have no answers to many things! And I seem to just see a lot of darkness no matter how hard I try to see the light. It is like I am being tested over and over. And I keep failing and I pick myself back up again but I stumble again. I hope I can keep picking myself up. I have many things and challenges to overcome. Peace and blessings to everyone. Peace is so very important. I know this first hand as a very close family member has about destroyed our extended family and taken all the peace away. I am a person that likes peace. Some even call me a peacemaker. I have many problems to solve. I have a some very pressing problems now to solve. My mom is the one that has taken all the peace away. I had a very tough upbringing. I was in a foster home for many years. My mom has caused so many problems for so many years to many. Recently I was faced with either getting a restraining order or calling the police and having her picked up outside my house. I just could not do it. Honestly she does need to be in jail for all she has done to many or in a facility to get the help she needs. But my step- dad tried to put all the pressure on me to do this and not him at all. My mother recently started drinking again and was taking pills she got here and there. She beat on my stepdad again yet he would not press charges and left and went back! He is getting her off stuff he says. But I may yet have to change my cell phone number and get a restraining order. She had even threatened to kill my step-dad. Yet, he went back. He honestly is not always the smartest person or the most honest. All this has caused a lot of problems in my own life and marriage more so now. My husband has made some of his feelings very clear lately. I have to start thinking more of my husband, myself and my life. I deserve to be happy and not live in fear of my own mother. I have a chronic illness and chronic pain and must take better care of myself. The hardest lesson I have learned is no matter how hard we want to save somebody , "We can't always save someone if they don't want to be saved ". I have become less trusting of people, my self esteem is low, and I am becoming more isolated even though I love people, due to my mother and illness. Yet, my daughter says I am the strongest person she knows. Bless her. Sometimes we have to save ourselves! I am 45 and have always wanted a mother I did not have to try to fix, please or take care of. I just wanted a mother. If my mom dies I will have no closure I fear. I have tried so very hard. I have had to break off all contact many times and have to again a while back with my mother. Not because I wanted to, because I had to. So sorry to put all this here, my heart is so very heavy this Mother's Day for many reasons. I keep losing the people I love in different ways. Someone does not have to die for them to be lost to you and unreachable. Life is not fair or easy. I have tried to always to do the right thing even when the right thing is so hard to do. I have failed sometimes but I keep trying. Don't give up!
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  6. I feel you. I am trying to overcome the feeling of always being overwhelmed and ten steps behind. I try to practice patience but wow, with a 10 year old and a 2 year old...patience oftentimes flys out of the window. Two children with VERY different needs at the SAME time. I think, well i know, if i had the income to hire a personal assistant/nanny, my life would be so much more organized and would flow so much better. (I try to practice gratitude because it could be worse).
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  7. I hear you. Taking care of children is a full time job! I always say that because it is so true! Income is an issue in our household too for different reasons. I have the empty nest syndrome now too and hate it! Our son-in-law had to join the Air Force. It came down to that or the coal mines here in WV where jobs are scarce. My son-in-law worked hard to provide for his family here but the pay here is too low. I have been married almost 26 years and our daughter is 24, our son-in-law is 25 and our grandson will be 3 tomorrow! They are over 12 hours away. They lived with us many years. Our son in law did because he came from a broken home as well. He left the last time his step dad hit him in the head and never went back. His mom ended up marrying this abuser she had been with for many years. We got to see them at Christmas. And our daughter and son in law want to pay for plane tickets for us to come see them this summer. My husband has a lot of pride. But our little girl(our daughter will always be our baby!) wants to see us and we can't afford the tickets. Our grandson asks to come see us often. He is young and it is hard for him to understand they can't just get in the car and come to grandma and grandpa's house. We went from seeing them almost every day to seeing them well 2 times a year if we are lucky. They left last May for Florida. We miss them so much! We are all still close. Living in a 1000 square foot home with all of us was not easy. I wish we had been able to have more chidren but we are blessed. I had female problems, we had other issues and I had major surgery at 28 for that. Oh my half brother who is almost 13 years younger then me used to come and stay with us often too. But he has moved away and sort of forgotten us. I miss him! We were like best friends. My husband and I helped him out often. He works in the coal mines now. Those are the best paying jobs here. My husband has a lot more joint pain then he used to and can't work in the mines. He does the best he can. His job is still very physical but he is lucky to have a job here. We know many that have left with College Degrees here because they can't find a decent job here. My husband works full time but I am not able to work now and have not been for a long time. I hope to be able to work part time some day again soon. We really need the money My house is a hot mess right now and I am trying to clean it out for my own well being but esp for my husband since he hates clutter! My mom kept a lot of stuff. And it is hard for me to get rid of stuff since I grew up poor and learned to carry my stuff in at times a paper sack! But this is now and not then. I have to remember that and tell myself that. I must say I also pray for those who want children and can't have them. It seems to be that so many people are facing different problems. Keeping you in my prayers. All problems in life are hard and are problems no matter what! I am also trying to find a cure for my fatigue too if anyone has any solutions they find for that. Or a good way to let go of stuff and get organized. I have hung on to too much for too long. One day at a time is hard. One minute at a time sounds better!
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  8. http://www.youtube.com/watch_popup?v=W5mbldTkruM&feature=share If you think life is hard, watch this: it is the most inspirational thing I've ever seen. No more pity parties for me!
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  9. One day at a time, one day at a time. We bought a lemon house, if I told you how niave were were and how dupped we were and by who, your head might explode. It is insane what we've had to deal with in the nearly 3 yrs since we moved away from "home". INSANE. I nearly died after being stung by a bee, massive allergy attack then to have my gallbladder removed a yr later (a whole nother issue). Healthwise, I feel much better. Whew, thank goodness. Just were we live, we are outsiders, a small town and it's been tough if not impossible to fit in. We hate it and want a new start. But, then there is our jacked up house and though the issues have been repaired ($50,000) yes, you read that right, $50k in repairs to the one BIG problem....doesn't count the other $25K we have spent to get things right. You'd think we bought a dump right? A fixer-upper??? But, if you saw it, it is a gorgeous home and would NEVER guess the problems it has had. Lesson learned. If it's too good to be true. IT IS. Lesson learned...DO NOT BUY A HOME from a person YOU WORK with. I miss the community I left. This place, ughhh I think my mom has become an alcoholic as well as my Dad More uggghhhh I have very little communication with my immediate family I would have never thought that my life would have them not being a part of it Funny thing, I do not want to go back "home" Too much family drama. To be away from that insanity, this move has been a blessing. But, I hate that it has come to this. Me feeling that way. How sad is that? Yesterday, on my son's 1st Grade field trip, a little boy did not have a parent attend so, he was paired with me and my son. He tells me, while staring out the bus window, "my dad died last yr, he died of a heart attack" BROKE my heart into a million pieces So, my problems are nothing compared to this sweet child. One day at a time, one day at a time..........
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